Wendy Wax’s 5 Do’s and a Do-Over

Can we just pat ourselves on the back for a second and say that we’re really lovin on our 5 Do’s and Do-Over feature? It’s been uhmazing to get such great advice from some of our favorite authors including Sarah Pekkanen, Kristin Hannah and Jen Lancaster. And now we get to add the immensely talented Wendy Wax to that list! (And she has some powerful advice- more on that in a minute.)

But first…since The Accidental Bestseller, we’ve been hooked on Wendy’s writing and are always giddy with anticipation as we wait to see what she comes up with next. And with Ten Beach Road she wowed us again. First of all, when we look at the cover of Ten Beach Road it makes us think of Summer- in a good way! Not in the OMG, we have to sqeeze our booties into bikinis way, but in an I’m excited to lounge by the pool with a cocktail and pretend I don’t have a spare tire (Lisa) kind of way.  And then when we read Ten Beach Road, a powerful novel about friendship, trust and love, we were inspired and excited to tell y’all all about it.

Synopsis: Madeline, Avery and Nikki are strangers to one another, but they have one thing in common.  They each wake up one morning to discover that their life savings have vanished, along with their trusted financial manager…leaving them with nothing but co-ownership of a ramshackle beachfront house.

Madeline Singer is a homemaker coping with empty-nest syndrome and an unemployed husband. Avery Lawford is an architect—or was, until she somehow became the sidekick on her ex-husband’s TV show.   And professional matchmaker Nikki Grant is trying to recover from her biggest mistake…

No on is going to save them but themselves. Determined to fight back, they throw their lots in together and take on the challenge of restoring the historic beach house to its former glory. But just as they begin to reinvent themselves and discover the power of friendship, their secrets threaten to tear down their trust, and destroy their lives a second time…

And if you leave a comment, you’ll be entered to win one of FIVE copies of Ten Beach Road. We’ll randomly select the winners after 6pm on Wednesday, May 11.



1.      Do try to see the positive. I didn’t come wired this way, but my goal is to become a ‘glass is half full’ person instead of a ‘half empty’, or ‘always-holding-a- dribble-glass’ kind of person. I’m drawn to positive people, and I’d like to be one of them!

2.      Do study or travel abroad if you get the chance. My six months in Florence as a college student were filled with constant challenges, but I learned a lot, much of it about myself. And if you’re single, go ahead and date that Italian guy that you need a dictionary to communicate with. I still remember my Italian boyfriend, Umberto, with fondness and, frankly, sometimes not knowing what they’re saying is a plus.

3.      Do embrace change. Life is too short to settle for less than you want or deserve in either your professional or personal life.

Albert Einstein defined insanity as doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Albert was right! After years of being attracted to ‘bad boys’ I finally said yes when a ‘nice’ guy asked me out. We just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary and based on my father-in -law’s maxim that ‘the first forty years are the most difficult’ we’re only fifteen years away from Nirvana.

4.      Do listen to your mother – at least on occasion. I spent a lot of my life rebelling and, in fact, when my entirely suitable husband asked me to marry him, right after I said yes I may have actually added that I hated to make my mother that happy.

It’s amazing how much smarter your mother seems after you become one.

5.      Do open your mind. Step outside your comfort zone. Find new things that interest you. It sounds so obvious, but it can be hard to do. I doubt I’ll ever take up wildlife medicine or hang gliding, but I’m thinking about finally learning golf (one of the many things I rebelled against as a teenager) or rowing, or… I don’t know, but just thinking about what I might try next is invigorating.


For me, this ties in to becoming a ‘glass is half full’ person. I think we all need to be able to appreciate and accept ourselves right now, in the moment. This photo was taken on Pass-a-Grille beach (where Ten Beach Road is set) about 25 years ago. Today I think, hmmm, not bad. (Okay, actually I would kill to look like this now!) At the time I was wishing my thighs weren’t so fat.

To find out more about the lovely and talented Wendy Wax, visit her website and follow her on Facebook and Twitter.

Thanks, Wendy!


XOXO Liz & Lisa

68 Responses to “Wendy Wax’s 5 Do’s and a Do-Over”

  1. Jeannette P

    Great list! Sounds like a great read. Hope I win a copy!

  2. Lauri

    This book sounds great! I love Do’s #2 &3 .I really believe world travel can help shape you into a more well rounded person. Plus I love trying all the great food. #3 is so true sometimes we get to caught up in other’s expectations or just not taking risks. Life is to short!

  3. Heather

    I loved ‘Accidental Bestseller’ and ‘Ten Beach Road’ sounds really good!! I was hoping she’d have another book out soon! Looking forward to reading it! : )

  4. Kerrie

    Love the list – #4 especially! I’ll add to it to try to write down some of mom’s wise words too! I recently lost my mom and am trying to remember some of our talks and write things down to pass on to my kids and nephews. I’m probably driving my relatives crazy asking them what they remember her telling them!!

    About the book – this is the kind of book I am always looking for. The friendships of women can be complex but simple at the same time and I love reading about women closer to my age and the relationships they form. Some romance thrown in is true to women’s lives but it isn’t usually the central theme of any of them! So why only write about the romantic, fallling in love stuff?!

  5. rene

    I would love to win a copy. Looks like a great read!

  6. Susan S

    I like all 5 of your do’s. What a wise woman you are, Wendy. This book sounds wonderful!

  7. Wanda Z

    Ten Beach Road sounds like a good read. Would love to win it!!

    #3 is a DO I agree with. Some things do need to change, just like some things need to stay the same. It has to be an appropriate mix to keep life interesting and challenging.

  8. Tiffany D.

    Great list! I have this on my wish list, can’t wait to get a copy and dive in :)

  9. Lisa

    Sounds like a great read! Thanks for the chance to win a copy!

  10. Linda S

    I am not familiar with Ms. Wendy Wax but this new book sounds really interesting! I cant wait to read it!
    I identify with #4.
    Most of us have really awesome moms and of course dont recognize that until we are much older!

  11. KLM

    I agree with Wendy’s suggestion to study abroad. I lived in Germany when I was a senior in college, and it was incredible. The city I lived in is well known for its Roman-type baths (naked), and it took me about 30 beers (exaggerating!!) to get the courage to do it. But when it was over, I couldn’t wait to go back because I loved it!! With the exchange rate at the time, I spent around $8 per 4-hr session, which included water jet message, body exfoliation, massage, sauna, warm water soak, full body creme application and wrap in warm body towels where you’re then put in a bed and encouraged to nap for however long you wish. Heaven on earth!!

  12. Kirsten

    Wendy’s right: listen to your mothers. I wish I had listened more when she was alive. Now, there are so many questions I have for her, and no one to answer them. I miss her each and every day. Cherish your mothers while they’re here!

  13. Shannon J.

    This book looks so good!!! Just a real enjoyable beach read!! Now to find a beach!! I’m horrible at #3 and really need to work on that! One little thing and my world crumbles!!

  14. Nancy H

    I just put this on my to-read list over the weekend. And, I love her Do’s!

  15. Corinna

    Looks like a great book! Would love to share this book with my girlfriends!

  16. Kathleen Martin

    Love your do-over comment! I photograph high school seniors and I think they’re absolutely gorgeous. Too bad it takes 10, 20 or 30 years for them to realize it…

  17. Karen

    This sounds like a good book. Even if I am not lucky enough to win it, I would buy this in a heartbeat.



  19. nina priddy

    I totally agree with #1 ! would love to read your book!

  20. Margaret Ethridge

    I strive to be a glass is hlf full girl too. Excellent post. Totally on-board with your do-over too. I would be so much kinder to my teenaged/20-something self than I was 20 years ago.

    I devoured The Accidental Bestseller and Magnolia Wednesdays, and I would love a copy of Ten Beach Road.

  21. Mary Ward

    I try to be the hall full gal. It doesn’t help anything to look for the worst possible scenario all the time. I love the line about how much smarter your mother became when you became a mother. That’s the truth!

  22. Rachel

    I’m going to have to try and look up this author.

  23. Jane Cook

    What a lovely new author you’ve introduced me to, yet again! This sounds like a really fun read!!

  24. Elisa Abner-Taschwer

    Love the “listen to your mother” do…I learned this the hard way and realized she did know what was best for me most of my life!

  25. Belinda

    I love your do’s and do-overs. I lost my Mom 4 years ago and I know she’s smiling down on me right now as I constantly realize how smart she really was. I try to be positive and some days it is a challenge. Would LOVE to win this Beach book :)

  26. Kathy

    I completely agree that your mother seems much wiser once you yourself are a mother!!

  27. runner10

    I wish I had studied abroad. I was too scared to venture off that far from home.

  28. Michele

    I have heard fantastic things about this book. I can’t wait to read it!

  29. Susan

    This book sounds sooo good! Love the do’s and do over … especially #5. :)

  30. Heather Crouse

    Thanks for sharing! I’m printing this and putting it on my fridge so I can read it every day. I usually hate change so #3 is a constant struggle for me, but I know a daily reminder will help keep me on track. For me, the do over is spot on. 25 years from now, I will look back on today and know that this time of my life was the good stuff and I need to appreciate it more today instead of wishing I could make adjustments here and there.

    Hope I win the book!

  31. Dona West

    I have not read your books . I am looking forward to trying and passing on to my customers. I have a bookstore at our local Flea Market. Always wanted a book store could not find someone who I wanted to go in with me and do the math. So I went at it this way and I can do the Math. I love reading and telling people about what I read. I love your do’s and don’ts.. Its hard sometime but I tree to keep half full…

  32. Christy

    Your book sounds good to me which is more perfect for summer reading! Love your list and everything sounds great to me. I would love to go overseas just for family vacation and hopefully we will do that. Cant wait to see the book!

  33. Jeryl M.

    Sounds like a good book. I’d like to read it.

  34. Pascale

    I LOVE this list. What great ideas to live by. Going to check out the book too. Love this web site!

  35. Jencey Gortney

    Thank you guys for having Wendy Wax on your site. I got to see her on her tour. I think she has some great advice in her 5 Dos and Do overs. I also agree whole heartedly about the cover for Ten Beach Road it definitely makes you look at summer in a positive way. :)

  36. Darlene

    This book sounds terrific!!! I can’t wait to read it.

    I find hat #3 Embracing change is probably the hardest thing for me, especially as I’ve gotten older.

  37. Holly Harper

    I love all your novels and can’t wait to take a few Ten Beach Road to Hawaii for my wahine ohana (female family members) to read. It will give them a little taste of Florida and why I love this state so much! MAHALO Wendy!

  38. Rickie Newell

    That book is now on my list. It sounds like just what I want to read now. I’m the empty-nester one….

  39. Natasha

    This book sounds great! I really like your list, especially number 3. It can be really difficult and scary to change, but you can’t grow without change. I agree with number 2. We can learn so much from other cultures. The world is an enormous, wonderful place. We need to learn about it and embrace our differences! :)

  40. Meg munson

    This book sounds so amazing!!! Would live to win this one:-)

  41. Mary

    What a unique story line. I love when an author reaches out of the box and takes a chance on something implausible and makes it work. Can’t wait to read it !

  42. Stephanie S.

    I already have this on my to-read list and would love to win a copy!

  43. Jennifer Sharp

    Sounds like a great read. Need to tattoo #1 to my forehead (or at least put a reminder on my desk).

  44. MJK

    LOVE this list! I’m totally with ya on #1 – trying to search out the positives in all things – TOTAL stretch for me sooooo it covers #5 too LOL! As I look for joy it is sparking interest in things to try with my husband, kids, friends and my business. Number 3 feels like a sign..I just interviewed for something that takes me totally out of my zone, but can soar my culinary career to a new level! I’m excited to see what 2011/12 holds for me.
    Looking forward to diving into the book!

  45. Nicole

    Wow, I sure need to work on #3, Do Embrace Change. I do not embrace change at all. I get “stuck” doing things the same old way all the time!! It’s come back to bite me in the butt multiple times. LOL I’m workin’ on it!! Great list. :)

    I’d love to win a copy! I’m putting it on my wish list right now.

  46. Jennifer

    I have to read this book, I think Wendy may be my new favorite author and I have yet to read the first word she’s written.

    I’m so glad to have found this site! I’m always looking for a good book, but have a hard time finding just what I’m looking for (probably because I don’t know myself) and hate it when I realize 1/2 way through a book it wasn’t at all what I was in the mood for. Looks like the info here is going to go a long way in helping me make my reading decisions. Thank you!!

  47. Jennifer C

    This book sounds like a good beach read! Love the cover art! Thanks CLIND!

  48. Michelle | Bleeding Espresso

    I’m completely on board with Wendy’s advice — living in the moment is something that actually gets easier with practice, so if you’re not great at it now, the best thing to do is fake it till you make it. P.S. Visiting your site is always like stopping in for coffee with an old friend…one who gives away lots of books to boot :)

  49. Maureen

    It was an interesting interview and I enjoyed the list, especially the part about your mother getting smarter.

  50. Trish

    Love your list of “do’s.” Ten Beach Road looks like a terrific read, especially since summer will not get here fast enough for me. Thanks for the chance to win =)

  51. Sarah

    I would love to read this book…Thanks!! Also, I love the list!

  52. karenk

    thanks far the chance to read wendy’s fabulous novel :)

  53. Kimmi

    I hate it when my mother’s right – which is 99% of the time.

  54. Heidi Milton

    Just in under the wire! I love Wendy Way… she never ever disappoints and leaves me wanting more! This is on my “must read” list for the summer. Thanks, L and L! xoxo

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