Sarah Strohmeyer’s 5 Do’s and a Do-Over

Because we’ve been BFF’s for sooo long, we love books about friendship. *cue sappy piano ballad* And Kindred Spirits by Sarah Strohmeyer is a novel we absolutely fell for because it’s about lifelong friends who come together in the toughest time imaginable. Oh, and they love a good martini! Does it get any better than that?

When life gives you lemons, call your best girlfriends and whip up some lemon martinis. Such is the mantra for the Ladies’ Society for the Conservation of Martinis, which was established after one fateful PTA meeting, when four young mothers-Lynne, Mary Kay, Beth, and Carol- discovered they had more in common than they ever thought possible. Meeting once a month, the women would share laughs and secrets and toast to their blossoming friendship with a clink of their sacred martini glasses. The Society was their salvation, their refuge, but when life-shattering circumstances force the group to dissolve, their friendship is never quite the same…until two years later, when a tragic event puts the Society back in session.

When Lynne passes away suddenly, she leaves behind one simple request: that her old friends sort through her belongings. Reluctantly, the women reunite to rummage through her closets. There’s nothing remarkable; no kinky sex toys, no embarrassing diary. But buried deep within Lynne’s lingerie drawer is an envelope addressed to the Society. And inside they find a letter that reveals a shocking secret and a final wish that will send the women on a life-changing journey…proving that nothing is more powerful than the will of a true girlfriend and a good, strong martini.

And if you leave a comment, you’ll be entered to win one of five copies of Kindred Spirits. We’ll randomly select the winners after 6pm EST on Sunday, August 14th.


Photo credit: Jan Cobb Photography, Ltd


1) … make a living making yourself happy! I can’t believe how long it took me to figure out that I didn’t have to take calculus in college and that playing with Barbies would launch my dream career. If you LOVE being outside, then for heaven’s sakes, don’t get an office job, check out the park service! And if you love dressing up Barbies like Joan of Arc or Sylvia Plath…go for it!

2)see Springsteen. Three times – THREE! – a friend with rock and roll connections called me up at the last moment while I was living in New Jersey to say that Bruce was going to make a surprise appearance at the Stone Pony or some other club in Asbury Park. All three times I blew him off. TWICE Bruce jumped on stage and played until dawn while I was getting my 40 winks in preparation for the next work day like a good girl. I’ve totally forgotten about the work; but I’ll always remember how I could have reached out and touched Bruce.

3) …become a great listener. Every successful, interesting person I’ve met is a great listener. They approach each stranger with an eagerness that you can see in their “enthusiastic attention.” They don’t interrupt. They ask follow-up questions. As a result, you, the talker, feel like a million bucks. This is especially flattering to guys – or any love interest. Guys will do anything for a woman who listens.

4) … learn how to perfect one somewhat fancy dinner. Cornish game hens with orange glaze, wild rice and roasted asparagus was mine for the longest time. Came in handy for entertaining guests from out of town, throwing an impromptu dinner party or impressing my future in-laws. A dessert from the local bakery or a quick and easy flourless chocolate tart sealed the deal. Email me at for recipes.

5)go out of your way to be really, really nice to someone who’s really not nice to you. Kill them with kindness, as my mother used to say. There is nothing so sweet, so delicious, as turning on the charm when you’ve been doused with acid. And though it sounds Pollyanna-ish, nine times out of ten, that person will melt and underneath you’ll find someone in deep pain who craves love.


Easy. I should have ignored my mother’s admonitions and slept with my cute college boyfriend.

Man. What was I thinking? The guy was hottttt and nice and sweet and dying to make love to me. Yet, there I was holding onto my virginity like it was my passport to female fulfillment. Eventually, he got frustrated (which my mother said proved her point that he was no good) and went off. We remained friends and are to this day. He’s happily married. I’ve been happily married for 22 years, but….still.

To find out more about the talented Sarah Strohmeyer, visit her website and follow her on Facebook and Twitter!

Thanks, Sarah!

xoxo, L&L


70 Responses to “Sarah Strohmeyer’s 5 Do’s and a Do-Over”

  1. Kathleen Martin

    Just finished reading your book and loved it!! It’s wonderful to read a book that makes me laugh and cry. It also stayed great through the end – no disappointments!

    Love Do#5… works every time!

  2. Susan

    This book sounds amazing! Can’t wait to read it. I love Sarah’s Do’s and Do-Over ….especially the Do-Over. LOL!!! :)

  3. Mary

    Great Do’s! The Do-Over? I wonder if you had would you still be friends today? But, yeah, I get your point :) The book sounds great, by the way!

  4. Pascale

    I have read EVERY ONE of Sarah’s books and they are all delicious, fun and engaging. CANT wait to read this one! Even caught the Lifetime version of one of them (has a different title, but was a pretty good tv movie!… think it was the CInderella Pact). I am sure this one will be as good as the others.

  5. Tina Horner

    I recently discovered her books and now am trying to get my hands on all of them! Love her so much!

  6. Shannon J

    Sounds like a great book!! #5 little easier said than done but for the most part I agree fully and do-over!! =Love it!! That is so funny!!

  7. Jeannette P

    Sounds like a really great read! Thanks for a chance to win a copy!

  8. Phyllis Banks

    This book sounds fantastic can’t wait to read it. There is nothing like best friends in your life.

  9. Colleen Turner

    Oh my what a great list! I love her do over….I can see why she would want to do back in time and do that! For some reason we are always much braver as we get older :).
    I also totally agree with being really nice to someone who is really not very nice to you. I do that all the time, because usually they end up looking, and feeling, like a heel.

  10. Deborah Rudd

    Sounds like a great book! can’t wait to read it. Love your do’s but most especially your do-over, I had one of those, wish I had done it!

  11. Mary Ward

    I do consider myself a great listener and have been told that many times. Now, I wish I could be a great listener of Springsteen! I’d love to have seen him 3 times! I can’t wait to read this book. Sarah’s books are always enjoyable.

  12. Clair Ellis

    Love your do-over! And I want to know how to mak cornish game hen! haha! I can’t wait to pick this up and read it :)

  13. Rachel O

    I LOVED the cinderella pact. Such a good book and very relateable.

  14. Alison Fees

    The book sounds amazing. As always thanks for another chance to get to know a great author :)

  15. Lisa

    Love all Sarah’s books. I have read them all, but not yet Kindred Spirits. I absolutely agree with the do-over. I would like the very same do over myself!

  16. Nina

    I love the advice on becoming a great listener! That’s something I’ve been recently trying to work on…wish me luck! :)

  17. Jennifer Jabaley

    This book sounds fantastic.
    Love #5 do – awesome advice!!
    And LOL at do – over :) so funny.

  18. michelle

    The power of friendship akways makes for an excellent read, add a bit of mystery and I’m hooked!!

  19. Jane

    I’ve read several of Sarah’s books and loved them all! I would love to read this one too. Great advice. I need to work on that dinner…

  20. Amy

    I would absolutely love to read this book. I have not heard of Sarah Strohmeyer. And I as well always enjoy reading book about best friends, how they bond, through their lives, through their good times, and through their bad times. I believe your true girlfriends can many times know you, and validate you, better than your family members. This is how it is with my best friend.

  21. Mary

    Love the storyline ! Can’t wait to check this one out. It may have just jumped up front on my reading list.

  22. Kathy

    Sounds like this one is going to be good! Going to have to get the library ladies to put this one request for me. Love your sense of humor! Going to have to work on my “do” list and I have many things I wish I could do over!

  23. Joanna

    I hope to read this book soon! I fell in love with the “Bubbles” series and plan on reading all the other books as well.

  24. sarah

    Thanks so much for this, Liz & Lisa. What a fun concept. I’ve been looking for an outlet to express my do-over….now I’ve found it.

    PS – Let’s hope he doesn’t. He works for CNN and it could be embarrassing! I could see the feature now: Middle Aged Women who Regret they weren’t Skankier.



  25. Lou

    Oooh, am going to suggest this one to my Book Club!

    Also, I like her advice about being a great listener … I totally agree.

  26. Kristi Hooke

    I love books about those special friendships… would love to win!

  27. Susan S.

    It is very important to be a good listener; I like that one. Also #5 is really good advice. This book sounds like a great read!

  28. Julie H.

    I always enjoy a Sarah Strohmeyer novel and loved her do’s and even the do-over! Number 4 all sounds very scrumptious! I used to always make salmon for guests, it was easy but always seemed special.

  29. Jonessa

    I totally agree with #2, only mine was a missed chance to meet Billy Joel. It took almost 20 years before I finally got the chance to see him. It was fantastic!!!!

  30. Nina T

    Love the 5 Do’s! I agree that we should all have at least one dish that we have perfected. I think I need to be a bit more fancy though. ha! I’ve always wanted to kill someone with kindness. This has not yet happened though. Would love to win a copy of the book.

  31. nina priddy

    I love discovering a new author, this book sounds so good! I am very anxious to read it !

  32. Kait branath

    I’ve never read anything from this author before, but the story sounds very interesting, so I think this will have to be my first one by her!! I’m very excited to read it!!

  33. Lisa S.

    I’ve read her book “Sweet Love” & it was very good! I love her style & I am excited to see another book by her especially here on your blog! Would love to win this book! Good luck to everyone!
    pinchbuggies at

  34. Kimmi

    I love the concept of this book, because I too have a group of long-time friends that I meet with once a month. I can do without the death though. :)

  35. Marianne

    This sounds like another one to add to my TBR pile. I have to agree with the author about making a living by making yourself happy!! You control your destiny…why not make the journey a pleasant one?!!

  36. karenk

    i love your list sarah…looking forward to reading your latest novel, too :)

  37. Jann in Baton Rouge

    Picking this up at the library tomorrow! Sounds great!

  38. Jenny Ryan

    Sounds great! My mother was the complete opposite — she wanted me to sleep with more of my college boyfriends. I was the squeamish one. Definitely a do-over!

  39. Jencey Gortney

    Another great interview! I read my first Sarah Strohmeyer book in May. I liked the book and this looks equally as interesting.

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